The other day I read a blogpost by Soph and she talked about self love and how important it is to appreciate and love yourself. That’s why today I wanted to have a little chat with you guys about pride and being proud of yourself.
Nowadays, loving yourself or talking in a positive manner about yourself, is seen as ‘arrogant’ or you being ‘full of yourself’. That got me thinking. Are you really an arrogant person for liking who you are and being confident? I don’t think so. I often find myself in situations where I am afraid people are going to think I am full of myself or showing off. For example, a few days ago in class, my teacher quoted Hamlet. She asked the class if anyone knew what her quote was from. No one knew what is was from, but me, being a massive nerd who loves English literature and everything to do with that, knew it was Hamlet. But then again, also being an incredibly shy person, I didn’t raise my hand. But was this just out of shyness, or was it because I thought people were going to think I am full of myself for knowing something they all didn’t? Or when people give you a compliment and you don’t know how to respond to it because you don’t want to seem arrogant. But then again, should you deny what they’re saying?
I think it is more than okay to accept a compliment or to raise your hand in class to show that you know something. It’s okay to like yourself, to be who you are and to be proud. I think it’s a good thing to sometimes compliment yourself. ‘Anne, that jumper you’re wearing really suits you!’ or ‘Anne, you did a really good job on knowing Hamlet.’ But it also works the other way around; ‘Anne, it’s okay you didn’t raise your hand. I am sure you will next time!’ Now you probably all think I am mental, but if no one is going to compliment you or say you did well, why not do it yourself? You don’t have to be down about yourself all of the time, give yourself some credit because you are doing a great job on whatever it is you’re doing! It’s okay to acknowledge that, for example, you did something well, or that you indeed do look really flipping good in that dress.
People put you down enough, at least be nice to yourself; be your own best friend.
But maybe you didn’t do so great that day. Maybe you didn’t achieve the biggest things and maybe you just look ‘kinda good’ in that dress, but that’s okay! You don’t need to do the biggest things in life in order for it to be a good one. You don’t need to achieve millions of great things in order to be proud of yourself. ‘You talked to a new person today eventhough you have social anxiety, I am so proud of you!’ or ‘It didn’t work out exactly like you wanted it, but you tried and that’s great!’ or ‘You wore that dress today, eventhough you were self consious about it, that’s amazing!’
All in all, what I wanted to say is that you don’t need to be down or negative about yourself. It’s okay to be happy with who you are. You may not be exactly like somebody else but you don’t need to be. They are them and you are you. You don’t have the potential to become who they are supposed to be, and they don’t have the potential to become who you are supposed to be. (guess who payed attention at her philosophy class? Thanks for this great insight, Aristotle!) It’s okay to acknowledge that you’re good at someting or that you look nice. Compliment yourself, even on the smallest little things, because the way you look at life, is all up to you. You can decide whether you’re happy or not. The world will try and get you down, but it’s up to you to be proud, proud of who you are.
”Happiness depends upon ourselves.” – Aristotle